How to Stop Second-Guessing Yourself and Reclaim Your Inner Power

It doesn’t come with alarms or flashing lights.

The erosion is subtle.

One small hesitation. One moment of silence when you wanted to speak.

And suddenly, you’re no longer at the centre of your life — you’re watching it from the sidelines.

There’s a moment — quiet but undeniable — when you realise that second-guessing yourself is costing more than just time.

It’s costing you your peace.
Your power.
Your presence.
And you know you can’t keep doing it this way.

If you’re stuck in the loop of questioning your worth, holding back your voice, or stalling on the next step in your business or life because you’re afraid it might be the wrong one…

I see you.
I’ve lived it.
And this is for you.

Back in 2014, my life looked successful from the outside. I’d climbed the corporate ladder, ticked the boxes, and built a career I thought would bring fulfilment.

But inside?

I was drowning in self-doubt, driven by pressure, and haunted by the belief that no matter how much I achieved, it would never be enough.

The exhaustion wasn’t just physical — it was soul-deep.

And eventually, it broke me.

But strangely, letting it all fall apart became the most powerful thing I’ve ever done.

In the aftermath, I made a promise to myself:

To untangle the beliefs, patterns, and emotional weight that had brought me to that point — and to build a life rooted in joy, truth, and feminine power.

What I’ve discovered over the last decade — building a soul-aligned business, getting pregnant, birthing and raising my son, living in tune with my truth, and supporting hundreds of women (and many good men!) to do the same — is this:

The Wildly Awakened Woman isn’t born in one defining moment.

She rises through small, sacred acts of self-trust.

Daily devotion.

And the radical decision to stop abandoning yourself.

Because the truth is — we live in a world that constantly tells women how to be, who to become, and what boxes to tick to be “enough.”

It’s no wonder we second-guess our every move.

We’re taught to trust experts, algorithms, influencers — everyone but ourselves.

And the more we reach outside for answers, the more disconnected we become from the truth that’s always been within.

But your power? It was never lost. Only buried.

And, if you are reading this, your remembering has already begun.

Doubt is Natural. Devotion is a Choice.

Here’s the thing about doubt: it’s not a flaw — it’s a signal.

In fact, it often shows up when you’re standing at the edge of your next expansion.

That quiet questioning, the fear, the overthinking — it’s not because you’re failing.

It’s because you’re about to do something that matters.

Doubt doesn’t mean stop.
It means you’re stretching.
It means your soul is calling you toward something bolder, deeper, truer.

But here’s where it gets tricky:
Your nervous system doesn’t distinguish between danger and growth.
It reads all change as a threat — and it responds accordingly.

Cue the spirals.
Worry. Intrusive thoughts. Procrastination masked as perfectionism.

This is biology, not brokenness.
Your inner critic isn’t cruel — she’s just scared.
She’s trying to keep you safe in the only way she knows how: by pulling you back into the familiar.

But staying small isn’t safe.
It’s suffocating.

That’s why wellbeing is one of the core pillars of The Feminine Edge.

Because the path to awakening isn’t about pushing through — it’s about learning to regulate your system, honour your body, and cultivate a mindset that’s rooted in possibility, not fear.

We don’t override our old patterns by hustling harder.

We alchemise them with presence. With patience. With power.

And here’s the part most people miss:

The antidote to doubt isn’t certainty.

It’s devotion.

Devotion to the woman you’re becoming.

Devotion to your soul’s truth — even when it feels wobbly.

Devotion to your future self who already knows how this story ends: in success, in freedom, in a life aligned with your deepest knowing.

You’re here for a reason — one only you can fulfil.

And I genuinely believe that with the right support, your success isn’t just possible.

It’s inevitable.

So if you’re feeling called to create change, to lead differently, to live more honestly — trust that.

It’s your soul remembering.

And it’s reminding you of this:

You are not alone.
You are infinitely held.

And when you commit to walking the path of self-love — with softness, compassion, and devotion —
life begins to meet you with more ease, more grace, and more miracles than you ever imagined.

What Devotion Looks Like in Action

Devotion is love in motion.

It’s not about having all the answers.

It’s about making the conscious choice — again and again — to come home to yourself.

To trust in your inherent wisdom.

To stay anchored when the waves of life start to rise.

Devotion is how you stop second-guessing and start self-honouring.

Here are three sacred ways to practise it:

🌿 1. Ask: What Would My Highest Self Choose Today?

Instead of spiralling into fear, pause and connect with the version of you who already knows.

She’s there — beneath the noise, the doubt, the conditioning.

Whether through journaling, speaking out loud, or stillness — create space for her voice to rise.

Let her lead.

This single question shifts you from reactive to responsive, from confused to clear.
She’s not somewhere far away.
She’s within you — waiting to be heard.

🌀 2. Use a Sacred Pause — Not a Spiral

When doubt shows up (because it will), don’t override it — honour it.

Take a breath.

Step away.

Put your hand on your heart and ask: “What’s really true here?”

Your nervous system needs time to catch up to your next level.

Let the fear surface. Let the emotions move.

When witnessed with compassion, they release their grip — and you rise more rooted, more free.

This is nervous system mastery, not mindset fluff.
It’s what turns overwhelm into clarity — chaos into calm.

🔥 3. Build a Devotional Practice

Devotion thrives in rhythm.

Whether it’s morning journaling, dancing in your living room, meditating, or walking with the earth beneath your feet — choose a ritual that brings you back to your truth.

Infuse it with mantras that reflect your becoming:
“I trust myself.”
“I am safe to be seen.”
“My path is unfolding with grace.”

Let these become your anchors.

Because the more often you return to your truth, the easier it becomes to live from it.

Devotion doesn’t demand perfection — it invites presence.

And the more devoted you are to your truth, your worth, your wellbeing…
the less space doubt has to rule your life.

The Wildly Awakened Woman Chooses Herself

The moment you stop outsourcing your authority and choose to trust your essence over your ego — everything shifts.

You don’t need more qualifications. You don’t need to be perfect. You don’t need to wait for permission.

You need more devotion in your life. A deeper connection with your heart and soul. And a small but mighty commitment to honour yourself and tend to your inner wisdom each day through small acts of devotion.

And if you’re ready to walk this path with support, I invite you to:

• ✨ Take the Feminine Edge Archetype Quiz and meet your inner Wildly Awakened Woman
• 🌸 Download the Wildly Awakened Woman Activation and reconnect with your essence
• Ready to walk this path in partnership? Let’s chat about how we can work together

The truth is — you already know the way.

You’ve just been waiting for the moment to say yes.

p.s. This is it 💖