You DON'T need to always be the strong one...

This guy is the glue that holds it all together.

He's my baby daddy, my life partner, my business partner and previous party partner! (We used to ALWAYS be the last ones standing!)

He's my sounding board, my shoulder to cry on, my safe port and my anchor in a stormy sea.

He's seen me at my absolute best. My absolute worst. And my most vulnerable.

He's seen me cracked wide open with a river of grief and unending pain flowing from me that terrified me more than anything else in my life because I didn't know if it would ever stop. (It did :-))

I used to try SO HARD to hold it all together.

To be the 'strong' one.

To fix everything for everyone else.

I found it very hard to accept help, to show my perceived weakness. To let people see if I didn't have all the answers.

I had a warm heart and cared deeply for others and was always running to everyone else's aid - little did I know I was really living from a place of the ego and not being true and authentic to myself and the people who cared for me.

#TRUTHBOMB If you're not letting people in you're keeping them out.

And I was always trying to hide my vulnerability - like it was something dirty, something to be ashamed of. (Which is one of the greatest lies of our time.)

I thought that if I was vulnerable, that I couldn't be the strong one. And the role I had carved out so well for myself was to be the strong one. So how do you ask for help?

And then the shift started to happen. Life cracked me open so wide that there was nowhere left to hide.

I remember the feeling of allowing myself to be held so well - of really allowing myself to rest in the arms of another as I crumbled and my heart disintegrated into a million pieces.

The feeling as I finally said out loud the words that were so loaded with fear they made my chest forget how to breathe and terrified me beyond anything I had felt before.

And I remember his acceptance. His unconditional love. His ability to say in a few words what took me thousands of attempts. To make sense of it all in partnership what feels so impossible in isolation.

I learned to ALLOW the support of another.

Never underestimate the power of what lies on the other side of your vulnerability.

I often tell my clients to lean in to the discomfort of unchartered territory and I ask them to trust that taking this leap of faith in themself and in me will lead to treasures they can only dream of. I have witnessed so many rich rewards of insights, breakthroughs and transformation that have changed so many lives for the better. Life is an unending, abundant treasure trove of gifts when you choose to receive them.

How can you allow yourself to reap the rewards of more meaning, deeper connection or the unbridled joy of feeling held and supported?

Where do you need to relinquish your grip to allow love, support and intimacy with another flow in to fill your heart?

Maybe it's your mum, your sister, your best friend or your lover.

When you know - let them in. It's messy and frightening and exactly why we are on this planet.

Wishing you joy and peace this Xmas <3